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Why Being A Nice Guy Has Ruined Your Marriage



Congratulations, dear reader, you've stumbled upon the ultimate guide to ruining your marriage! And the best part? You probably did it without even realizing it! You see, being a nice guy might seem like a good thing on the surface, but it's actually a one-way ticket to the doghouse.


Now, before you start getting all defensive, let me clarify one thing: there's a big difference between being a genuinely kind and respectful partner, and being a "nice guy." You know the type I'm talking about. The ones who think that just because they don't cheat or abuse their partner, they're entitled to a gold star and a pat on the back. The ones who go out of their way to do things for their partner, but secretly expect something in return. The ones who think that being nice is enough to make up for all their other flaws and shortcomings.


Well, I hate to break it to you, but being a "nice guy" has ruined your marriage. Here's why:


1. You're not being authentic.

When you're constantly trying to be nice, you're not really being yourself. You're putting on a persona, trying to please your partner at all costs. And while that might seem like a good thing, it's actually a recipe for disaster. Eventually, your true self is going to come out, and your partner might not like what they see. It's better to be honest and authentic from the beginning, so your partner knows exactly who they're marrying.


2. You're not standing up for yourself.

Being nice all the time means you're not standing up for yourself when you need to. You're not setting boundaries, you're not speaking your mind, and you're not expressing your needs and wants. And while it might seem like you're being selfless by always putting your partner's needs first, it's actually a form of self-sabotage. Your needs are just as important as your partner's, and if you're not standing up for yourself, you're setting yourself up for resentment and frustration down the line.


3. You're not challenging your partner.

Being a "nice guy" means you're not challenging your partner to be their best self. You're not calling them out on their bad behavior, you're not pushing them to grow and improve, and you're not holding them accountable for their actions. And while it might seem like you're being supportive by always letting things slide, it's actually enabling bad behavior and stunting your partner's growth. A healthy relationship requires both partners to challenge and support each other.


4. You're not being a complete person.

Being a "nice guy" means you're not allowing yourself to be a complete person. You're only showing one side of yourself – the side that's polite, agreeable, and easy to get along with. But there's so much more to you than that! You have opinions, interests, quirks, and flaws that make you who you are. By hiding those parts of yourself, you're not allowing your partner to truly know and love you for who you are.


So, what's the solution? Should you stop being nice altogether? Of course not! Being kind and respectful is an essential part of any healthy relationship. But you need to balance that kindness with honesty, authenticity, and self-respect. You need to be willing to challenge your partner, set boundaries, and express your needs and wants. You need to be a complete person, with all your quirks and flaws on display.


In short, you need to be a real partner, not just a "nice guy." So, take off that mask, stand up for yourself, challenge your partner, and be your complete, authentic self. Your marriage will thank you for it.

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